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Chris Hillman Saturday, June 13, 2026 The Competitive Moat That AI Can't Replicate Human Connection Trust Customer Experience Leadership AI Employee Experience Organisational Culture The Restaurant That Refused to Take Bookings Online Let me tell you a story about a restaurant owner who became obsessed with human connection. He didn’t want people booking online. He wanted them to call. He wanted the ritual of a human voice, the small exchange about an anniversary or a first date, the warmth of being recognised. His team thought he was losing his mind. Online bookings were standard. Everyone did it. Why make customers work harder? One of the managers finally asked him a pointed question: Have you ever actually made a reservation with us? He hadn’t. So he did. He called the restaurant. He was put on hold for thirty minutes. When someone finally answered, they were apologetic but firm — the restaurant was fully booked. No warmth. No conversation. Just a long wait and a closed door. In trying to humanise the process, he’d made it worse. Here’s where most stories would end with “so they moved everything online and fired the reservation staff.” That’s not what happened. They did move to online booking, but they kept the entire reservation team and repurposed them. These people now spent their days learning about the customers coming in that night. Who was celebrating a birthday? Who was on a first date? What had a regular not finished on their plate six months ago? The team became mini-concierges. Every guest walked in to find someone who knew them — not in a creepy, surveillance-state way, but in the way a good friend remembers what you’re going through. The technology handled the transactional layer so the humans could focus on the relational layer. I’m telling you this story because it captures something I think most organisations have forgotten in the rush to automate everything: the work of connection isn’t overhead. It’s the point. And as AI swallows the transactional layer of every industry at once, that relational layer is about to become the only point of difference left. Trust Is Built One Marble at a Time Brené Brown tells a story about her daughter Ellen that I realate to. Ellen came home from third grade devastated. She’d shared something vulnerable with a friend at recess, and by the time class started again, half the school knew. She told her mum, through tears, that she would never trust anyone again. Brown’s first instinct, honestly, was to agree. Tell no one anything, ever. But she caught herself and offered a different idea — the marble jar. There’s a jar in Ellen’s classroom where good choices add marbles and bad ones remove them. When the jar fills up, the class celebrates. Trust, Brown told her, works the same way. You share the hard things with people who have filled up your marble jar over time. Marble by marble. Small moment by small moment. Ellen immediately named two friends whose jars were full. What stopped Brown cold was what counted as marbles . One friend had scooted over at the lunch table to make “half a heinie seat” when Ellen had nowhere to sit. Another had remembered the names of Ellen’s grandparents at a soccer game. Brown couldn’t believe it. Surely trust required grander gestures than this. She went back to her research data and found exactly the opposite. The single highest-ranked trust-building behaviour in her entire dataset? People who attended funerals. Not the people who made big speeches or grand gestures. The people who showed up in small moments that mattered. Trust isn’t a transaction. You can’t purchase it, automate it, or accelerate it with a clever marketing campaign. It accumulates in tiny, unremarkable moments that look like nothing from the outside — and everything to the person on the receiving end. And here’s what I find most interesting about the marble jar: once it’s full, it’s incredibly hard to empty. You can weather bad days, miscommunications, even genuine mistakes. But if you’ve never bothered to fill it, a single bad interaction is all it takes. There’s nothing to cushion the fall. Every organisation has customers whose jars are full and customers whose jars are empty. The ones with full jars forgive outages, laugh off a late delivery, stay through a price increase. The ones with empty jars churn the first time anything goes wrong. Most organisations don’t realise which is which until it’s too late. Hospitality Is a Dialogue, Service Is a Monologue Danny Meyer, the restaurateur behind Union Square Hospitality Group and Shake Shack, draws a great distinction. Service is the technical delivery of a product — the food arrives hot, the bill is accurate, the room is clean. Hospitality is how the delivery of that product makes its recipient feel. Service is a monologue. You decide your standards and you deliver against them. Hospitality is a dialogue. You notice, you adjust, you respond. Meyer puts it even more sharply: hospitality exists when you believe the other person is on your side. It’s present when something happens for you. It’s absent when something happens to you. Those two little prepositions contain the whole difference. You feel it instantly when it’s there. You feel it even more instantly when it’s not. Meyer isn’t anti-technology, by the way. But he draws a firm line: the technology he’s interested in is technology that reinforces hospitality, not technology that replaces it. He gives sommeliers Apple Watches for real-time information. He doesn’t give them to waiters, because waiters need to maintain eye contact with guests. Thats super important. A restaurateur whose restaurants have earned basically every award that exists decided his waiters should not be looking at screens because eye contact is more important than information . When was the last time you saw a decision like that made inside a large organisation? The best story I know in this vein is from Will Guidara, who ran Eleven Madison Park when it was named the best restaurant in the world. One night, Guidara overheard a table of European food tourists lamenting that they’d eaten at Per Se, Le Bernardin, and Daniel — but they were flying home the next day and had never tried a proper New York City hot dog. Guidara ran outside, bought a $2 hot dog from a street cart, convinced his chef to plate it with “swooshes of ketchup and a quenelle of relish,” and had it served as a surprise mid-course. Every person at the table said it was the highlight of not just the meal, but their entire trip to New York. A $2 hot dog in a room full of the most expensive food in America. That’s the gap between service and hospitality. You cannot design an algorithm that eavesdrops on dinner conversation and dispatches someone to buy a street hot dog, because the person on the receiving end would immediately sense the machinery of it. The magic is precisely that a human heard, a human decided, a human cared. Guidara was so moved by what that moment revealed that he created a dedicated role called the Dreamweaver — someone whose entire job was to make these moments happen. Researching guests ahead of visits, building cheat sheets so staff could greet people by name, listening for conversational cues during dinner. This is exactly what the restaurant in the opening did. The technology handles the boring parts so the humans can do the thing only humans can do. The Things We Destroy Because We Can’t Measure Them Here’s where I get frustrated, and this is the part of the article I’ve rewritten three times. I’ve spent a lot of time in and around banking over the past few years, and I’ve watched a particular kind of decision get made over and over. It always starts the same way. Someone pull